The Prophet · Chapter
On Marriage explained
Almustafa responds to Almitra's question about marriage, teaching that while partners are born together and remain united even after death, they must maintain individuality and space within their union.
What happens
Almustafa responds to Almitra's question about marriage, teaching that while partners are born together and remain united even after death, they must maintain individuality and space within their union. He uses metaphors of pillars, trees, and musical instruments to illustrate the balance between togetherness and separateness.
Themes in this chapter
Love and Transformation
Almustafa redefines love as a force that unites yet preserves individuality, transforming the understanding of marital bonds.
Individuality and Interdependence
The teaching stresses that partners should be together yet maintain separate identities, like pillars standing apart or strings of a lute vibrating independently.
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Key passages
“You were born together, and together you shall be forevermore. You shall be together when the white wings of death scatter your days.”
You are united from birth and will remain united eternally, even through death.
Almustafa affirms the enduring nature of the marital bond.
“But let there be spaces in your togetherness, And let the winds of the heavens dance between you.”
Allow gaps in your closeness so that freedom and breath can flow between you.
He emphasizes the need for personal space within the relationship.
“Love one another, but make not a bond of love: Let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls.”
Love each other without turning love into a constraint; let it be a dynamic, fluid connection between your inner selves.
Love should be liberating, not confining.
“Fill each other’s cup but drink not from one cup. Give one another of your bread but eat not from the same loaf.”
Support and nourish each other, but maintain your own separate sources of fulfillment.
He advocates for shared support without loss of individuality.
“And stand together yet not too near together: For the pillars of the temple stand apart, And the oak tree and the cypress grow not in each other’s shadow.”
Be close but not so close that one overshadows the other, like separate pillars supporting a temple or different trees growing side by side.
The final metaphor reinforces the balance between unity and independence.