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Chapter XXI explained
Selina hosts a tea at the farm for General Goguet, Roelf Pool, Dallas O'Mara, and Dirk.
What happens
Selina hosts a tea at the farm for General Goguet, Roelf Pool, Dallas O'Mara, and Dirk. Dallas admires Selina's beauty and wants to paint her portrait. Roelf and Selina share a deep, affectionate conversation about their lives, with Roelf calling Selina 'wheat' and Selina calling him 'emerald.' General Goguet and Roelf kiss Selina's hand before leaving. Afterward, Dirk returns to his apartment, feeling like a 'rubber stamp,' and lies down in despair.
Themes in this chapter
Beauty and Art
Dallas's desire to paint Selina's portrait and Roelf's artistic critique of Mrs. Storm's features highlight the theme of beauty and artistic vision.
Ambition and Self-Fulfillment
Roelf's success as a sculptor and Dallas's plans to study in Paris contrast with Dirk's feeling of being a 'rubber stamp,' exploring fulfillment and ambition.
Characters to notice
- Selina DeJong
Hosts tea, radiant and beautiful; shares a profound moment with Roelf; has her hand kissed for the first time.
- Dirk DeJong
Feels like a 'rubber stamp' after seeing his mother's connection with Roelf; returns to his apartment and lies down in despair.
- Dallas O'Mara
Admires Selina's beauty and wants to paint her portrait; plans to leave for Paris to study.
- Roelf Pool
Shares a deep conversation with Selina, calling her 'wheat'; kisses her hand; later rides back to Chicago with Dallas and Dirk.
- General Emile Goguet
Enjoys tea and conversation with Selina; kisses her hand before leaving.
Key passages
“You’re wheat, Selina.”
Roelf tells Selina she is like wheat—essential, nourishing, and rooted in the land.
Roelf uses the metaphor to honor Selina's steady, life-giving nature.
“You’re nothing but a rubber stamp, Dirk DeJong.”
Dirk internally criticizes himself as a mere copy, lacking originality or depth.
Dirk's self-reproach reflects his crisis of identity and purpose.