Poetry · Chapter
Advice to the Girls explained
A speaker offers friendly counsel to young women considering marriage, advising them to prioritize a man's character—goodness, kindness, and common sense—over superficial attractions like appearance or charm.
What happens
A speaker offers friendly counsel to young women considering marriage, advising them to prioritize a man's character—goodness, kindness, and common sense—over superficial attractions like appearance or charm.
Themes in this chapter
Motherhood and Family
The advice implicitly concerns building a stable family through wise marital choice.
Characters to notice
- Unknown Narrator
The speaker offers marriage advice, urging girls to look beyond outward show.
Key passages
“Wed not a man whose merit lies In things of outward show, In raven hair or flashing eyes. That please your fancy so.”
Do not marry a man based solely on his good looks or charming appearance.
Warns against valuing superficial traits over deeper character.
“But marry one who’s good and kind, And free from all pretence; Who, if without a gifted mind, At least has common sense.”
Instead, choose a husband who is genuinely kind and honest, even if not brilliant, as long as he has practical wisdom.
Promotes the ideal of a sensible, sincere partner for a successful marriage.