# CXXXIII: The Charm of Bouderie explained — The Kural

> Chapter companion for The Kural by Thiruvalluvar.

## What happens

This chapter explores the paradoxical sweetness of lovers' quarrels, or bouderie, where feigned anger and temporary withdrawal enhance the joy of reconciliation and embrace.

## Themes in this chapter

### Love and Marriage

The chapter extols bouderie as a delightful aspect of romantic love, emphasizing the joy of reconciliation after a quarrel.

## Character check-ins

### Bouderie

Personified as the charm of love, whose feigned quarrel adds piquancy to the embrace and culminates in sweet reconciliation.

## Key lines

> Is there a higher heaven than bouderie, provided that the beloved is one with us, even as the water with the land whereon it floweth?

There is no greater bliss than a lovers' quarrel when the beloved remains intimately connected, like water inseparable from the land it flows over.

_Highlights the unity underlying the quarrel._

> It is the one who yieldeth first who is the winner in lovers' quarrels: thou canst see it indeed at the hour of reconciliation.

In lovers' disputes, the first to give in actually triumphs, as revealed during the moment of making up.

_Emphasizes the paradoxical victory in yielding._

> Bouderie is the charm of love: and the charm of that again is the sweet embrace at its close.

The quarrel itself is love's enchantment, and its enchantment lies in the tender embrace that follows.

_Summarizes the chapter's core theme of bouderie's ultimate reward._

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