# On Friendship and Reputation explained — Short Works

> Chapter companion for Short Works by Epictetus.

## What happens

A concise instruction on the proper conduct towards friends, both in their presence and in their absence, emphasizing loyalty and good character.

## Themes in this chapter

### Social Duty and Relationship

The chapter directly addresses the duties inherent in friendship, a core social relationship, prescribing honorable behavior in both action and speech.

### Practical Ethics and Self-Discipline

Provides a clear, actionable rule for ethical conduct regarding friends, requiring self-discipline to speak well of them when they are not present to hear it.

## Key lines

> When our friends are present, we ought to treat them well; and when they are absent, to speak of them well.

Act with kindness towards friends when you are with them, and maintain their good reputation by speaking positively about them when they are not there.

_This distills the principle into a two-part rule of conduct, highlighting integrity and loyalty as non-negotiable aspects of friendship._

## Links

- HTML: https://www.betterreads.online/discover/epictetus_short_works_se/chapters/clv
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